About Sexual Affairs

It would seem that there are many who do not take marriage seriously. They may at first, but when things begin to go wrong they consider the easy way out rather than trying to do things to fix the marriage. This is when sexual affairs can happen. Not all of them are a result of a bad marriage, as some do just because they think they can. Whatever the case, these are far more damaging to a marriage than you can imagine, and can really cause a lot of pain to the spouse that is left in the dark. Most are discovered, and they can really upset the dynamic of someones life.

Sexual affairs are different than emotional affairs, but many end up being both. An emotional affair can lead to sex if goes on long enough. Many times, affairs that are sexual in nature start out that way, and may not include any type of emotional attachment. Just like all people are different, the reasons for affairs and how they go are different too. Someone considering these types of affairs often dont think about what would do to their spouse, and they become very self-centered. Only when the emotional or sexual affairs are discovered do they realize what they have done.

Though many sexual affairs end marriages, some can survive. It depends on the number of affairs, how long they have been going on, and whether the marriage was stable or not. Those that have affairs when the marriage is faltering have usually had them for the warmth and attention, which the hurt spouse may be able to see after the fact. Those that are in good marriages that have sexual affairs just because they can or because they cannot control the urge may find that divorce is imminent. Spouses lash out when they first find out what is going on, but over time they can contemplate both sides of the issue. Some decide to try to move past , and they often can as long as both in the marriage really want that to happen. A good therapist is in order, however.

On the other side of the coin, if you are thinking of having emotional or sexual affairs with married people, you should really think twice. Rarely does a person leave their spouse for their affair. Even when they do, your relationship is doomed from the start because was born in and based on dece. You may think that you can have whatever you want, but you should really think about the family you may tear apart. I know that personally, I could never bring that kind of pain on someone else, even if were someone I didnt like. If someone really cares about you, they will leave their marriage first and then date you. Anything else is just plain wrong. When in the posion of considering sexual affairs with those who are not really available, you too may find the help of a good therapist to be just what you need.